According to Brené Brown, there are three things that shame needs to survive: secrecy, silence, and judgment.

She also says that shame cannot survive empathy.

“Empathy is a strange and powerful thing. There is no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It’s simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message of ‘You’re not alone.'” (Brené Brown)

Tell me every horrible thing you’ve done and let me love you anyway.