Safe People

Years ago, a wise teacher told me “not everybody is safe.”

I tend to trust people too easily and too soon.

In the past, I’ve handed over my power to people who are not safe or trustworthy. Unfortunately, I have repeated this lesson over and over again.

Being able to trust realistically and to discern who is a “safe person” continues to be a learning process for me.

I am learning that trustworthiness is proven over time. Simple things like being on time, being dependable, and fulfilling obligations are indicators of whether you can trust someone. Breaking promises, even small ones, can be an indicator that the person cannot be trusted.

I am learning to trust my instincts and not to ignore “red flags.”

I am learning to listen to counsel and warnings. My husband has warned me not to trust certain people, but I have ignored those warnings and have jumped into relationships only to have to admit that he was right AGAIN.

I don’t want to put up a wall around my heart and be distrusting of people. I do, however, want to feel safe with those I allow in close to my heart. ❤️