We all know what it is like to be shamed or disrespected.

For some, it is an ongoing battle because they find themselves in an abusive relationship or in a job or church culture that traffics in shame.

When someone shames or humiliates you, the most important thing to remember is that no matter what you’ve done wrong, you don’t deserve to be shamed or treated with disrespect.

Take responsibility for any mistakes that you have made, but do not come into agreement with shaming messages. We all make mistakes and we learn from those mistakes.

Researchers tell us that when someone is attempting to shame us that they are oftentimes projecting their own issues. So, try not to take it personally.

Learn to set good boundaries and remove yourself from the situation if possible. Give yourself time to calm down and then have a conversation with the person about how their words made you feel and what you would like from them in the future.

If the behavior does not change, you may need to leave that relationship.

Get support if you need it.